A lady seeks help on what to do after her family who collected the sum of N580, 000 as dowry from her husband, demands the sum of N120,000 for her brother's wedding.
A Twitter user @SmartAtuadi shared the tweet, noting that the lady, who is identified as Elohor Okudu is angry about her husband's decision of never sending money to her parent claiming they have collected their entitlement through the expensive dowry he paid on her.
She added that she has only been married for 8 months and does not know what to do as she and her husband are currently living like strangers in their home.
TL judge :— . (@SmartAtuadi) June 14, 2020
I got married 8months ago, my hubby earns 70k monthly while I am yet to get a job, during our wedding ceremony, hubby spent about 580k on the list given to him for the trad wedding, I persuaded my parents to reduce the list but they said it is a must and a tradition
The tweet reads: "I got married 8months ago, my hubby earns 70k monthly while I am yet to get a job, during our wedding ceremony, hubby spent about 580k on the list given to him for the trad wedding, I persuaded my parents to reduce the list but they said it is a must and a tradition.
"He was able to raise the Money bag as I wasn't working and I couldn't help financially. After marriage, I suggested that he should be sending something monthly to my parent as he does send to his parent too, but to my surprise, the reply he gave me was that he didn't owe my parent anything...
"...that they have collected all they are entitled to from him, initially I was not angry about that until my younger brother wanted to get married and his bride family gave him a list of things for the traditional wedding which is amounted to 400k.
"My dad then shared the expenses and told my husband to contribute 120k towards my brother's wedding but to my surprise, my husband said no and told me that my family has collected all they wanted during our wedding and they shouldn't come to him for any financial assistance.
"......this got me angry and I told him that he is not responsible. Ever since then we have been living like strangers in the house, he doesn't talk to me, he has just been keeping to himself, and I have never seen him this way before not even in our 2yrs of courting.
"Please our mummies and daddies kindly advise me on what to do to savor the situation, I am in between my husband and my family. ~From Elohor Okudu~"
Indeed as demanded, the controversial tweet has drawn the attention and reaction from many Twitter users:
A comment on the matter from my DM pic.twitter.com/XdsZnuzQQt— . (@SmartAtuadi) June 14, 2020
Marry person when get sense.— Blaise Aboh ? (@AimLEGEND_) June 15, 2020
Marry person when get work.
Marry person when fit stand e ground from their family influence.
Marry person when understand say na the two of you against the whole world.
Maery person when una two understand una parol
Marry your friend nitori olorun.
This thing just vex me when I got to the part the parents asked for his contribution. What kind if ilokulo is that? Shingbain, man doesn't owe the lady's family. Lady and her family ain't serious at all. Better build your home.— OMOSEH ? (@_____IFI) June 15, 2020
Your parents wants your husband to contribute to your brothers wedding. Read this and tell me if it makes sense to you. It shouldn't be forced, if he decides to give your brother something good and fine but he doesn't owe you guys— EzynneH (@JNifarh) June 15, 2020