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Love Language describes the way we feel appreciated and loved. It is all about knowing what it takes for a person to feel loved.
Generally, people tend to think everyone expresses and receives love in similar ways, but that is not how it is in reality. We are individuals with different personality, desires, needs and wants from life. Our love language depends on our individual personality which may make us feel loved differently than our partners do.
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If you discuss relationships with your friends, you will be amazed to see that what they want in a relationship is far-fetched from what you want. Every person understands and receives love in a specific language, knowing and taking the time to understand your partner’s love language can really help in improving communication, understanding each other better, maintaining a healthy relationship and strengthening the bond you share.
According to Dr Gary Chapman, author of ‘The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts’, the key to a lasting relationship is learning love languages and regularly putting it to practice. Don’t fret; the idea of love language is not a tough one.
According to Chapman, there are five love languages; Acts of Service, Physical Touch, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, and Words of Affirmation. Although some people may completely identify with one category
For people whose primary love language is acts of service, nothing will speak more deeply to them emotionally than putting in the effort to make life a little easier for them. This type of people feels seen and loved more when their partner take care of small details of life like spontaneously running errands without been asked, helping them out with their chores. This doesn’t mean they want you to act like a slave, they just want you to help out a bit. You don’t have to go overboard with it or do it on a daily basis, once in a while will do.
People with this love language see nothing as more effective than the physical touch of their partner. Not just sex, it could be something simple as holding hands while you walk, hugs, cuddling close, just anything that involves physical contact or a subtle touch. If this is your partner’s love language, all the words and gifts in the world won’t make them feel loved except there is physical contact. It makes them feel safe and connected in a relationship.
If your partner’s love language is quality time, giving them your absolute attention is one of the best ways you can minister to their soul. It is about paying attention, listening, and communicating something meaningful, which means, no televisions, chores, cell phones, and other distractions. People with this love language don’t just want to sit with their partner on the couch; they want their partner’s full focus and want to be the centre of attention.
I know for a moment you thought to yourself ‘Here comes the greedy one’, but no, people that their love language is receiving gifts are not necessarily materialistic. A posh car or diamond necklace is not required here. What you need is just a meaningful or thoughtful gift, rather than elaborate ones. Simply picking up a bar of chocolate, flower or their favourite flavour of ice cream can make a very huge impact. For a person whose primary love language is receiving gifts, little things mean a lot.
You might have been hearing this saying ‘Action speaks louder than voice’ or ‘it’s not about what you say but what you do’. Well, that is not true for people whose primary love language is the word of affirmation. They want to hear you tell them you love them, even better, adding why you love them. Compliments and word of appreciation make them feel comfortable and connected in a relationship. The simplest and shortest praises can make a massive impact.
“Thank you.” “I love you.” “Your hair looks good today.” Or just dropping a message over the phone when you are not together.
Going by the words of Dr Chapman, each person have one primary and one secondary love language. To understand a person’s love language, you have to study the way the person expresses love to others. Have it in mind that no matter how compatible you are with your partner, you may have different love languages. Taking that time to communicate your love language to your partner and also understanding their own love language can go a long way in fostering a healthy relationship.
Commonly, we make the mistake of showing love to our partners in the way that we ourselves want to be loved. This is wrong as it might not be their love language and they might end up not appreciating, which in turn will make us feel bad.
If your love language is the word of affirmation, you may be confused when you keep giving your partner compliments and they don’t see it as an act of love because the love language they speak is physical touch. They may also want to snuggle up close when you are seeing a movie and you would not value it as much as they do.
Better communication can only be build up if we speak in the love language that our partner understands.
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